The art of not being offended

Thank you for sharing.

 

Jeez now I am offended lol

 

thanks for sharing, it's an interesting idea and I disagree with some it of it.

 

HOW DARE YOU not copy+paste because clicking a link is just too much trouble for me

 

^lol, i was kidding, it was no trouble and i agree the article has some useful advice, i think we all take things too personally sometimes and forget that other people are usually not intentionally trying to hurt us, but merely approaching the situation the only way their entire existence up until that point has enabled them to.

 

It reminds me of the idea that people are only the effects of different causes in their lives, I think it's naturalism though I may be wrong.

 

you might be thinking of Determinism?

"The initial configuration of the universe may have been chosen by God, or it may itself have been determined by the laws of science. In either case, it would seem that everything in the universe would then be determined by evolution according to the laws of science, so it is difficult to see how we can be masters of our fate." -- Stephen Hawking

 

maybe, so then determinism is a stance that some naturalist hold. I love world views, very fun to learn.

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sorry if this is going off topic

 

Right, and if I didn't want to be raped, the onus is all on me as well.

 

I really liked the article. Thank you.

 

Considering when the article came, and the title of it, along with the current forum climate and that i'm doing several other things, yeah. I didn't read it.

 

Very good advice, and like all good advice, hard to follow consistently, but nonetheless good. Thank you for sharing

 

Interesting. I've come across this idea before, and it makes sense. I am a a bit weary about the abuse section, because a lot of times it's just not that simple, especially when the person being abused is a child, but still worthwhile to think about.

 

good one jenny! thanks for sharing!

 

It is all a matter of picking your battles.

The bad guys in the movies tend to say that a a lot, "Nothing personal."

Certain trivialities in life demand perspective to avoid living a life of stress, but I refuse to live my life like a robot. We must understand that our emotions are not always accurate to the situation, but I would never wish anyone to be emotionless. We live in a sea of isolated inferences.

I personally believe that a person needs to feel safe in order to work through their emotional states and to truly understand themselves and get a grasp on why they feel a certain way. Some are able to do this without the help of others, some aren't.

There is often a certain level of fear at expressing uncomfortable emotions. Most people don't like their expressions to be made into trivialities by recklessness.

 

. . . you're brilliant . . .

 

Thanks! Good read