- Nov 12, 2008
- 1w2 sx/so/sp
There's probably a few INFJ straight males on the INTP forum which have been mistyped, such as myself. Men don't always get validation for their feelings, so Ti can be a more valid way of handling the world. It always has been for me. School, work, family life... Ti gets me furthest, not Fe. Fe is just for the close and personal stuff, or when I'm having a really good time with friends.
My family is the type that validates T decision making rather than F decision making.
I'm gay, but I think this could apply to any INFJ in some way. I think part of the problem is people equate F with feelings and illogic. That usually isn't the case believe it or not, there is just a huge stigma tied to it. No one likes to appear illogical or overly emotional. My Fe is a beast, but I actually use it in the absence of emotion largely, and base a lot of things off logical thought processes. That made be think it was Te for a while, but it's not. You can still do the loops of logic through any judging function.
There is this assumption that Fe is a crying emotional mess. INFJ's can be like that, but most aren't. Because it is an auxillary function, it is not externally expressed as strongly; it's internalized, and thus doesn't actually look like stereotypical Fe in some ways. So if one feels emotions strongly, but don't express them, or use them as justifications for logic, then they likely won't test as an F in most cases.
When someone who is deeply bothered by the idea of being unintelligent, emotional, or illogical, they are going to fancy themselves to not be those. When one meets MBTI for the first time, there is a high chance they will test T. This is actually why INFJ's can test as INTP. They see T as a better more logical process and favor it over the flowery assumingness of F (which on most tests is made to look weak and or girly). However, that sort of process is going to effect another peception; the J/P axis. P often seems much less restrictive and pleasent. That is actually where there F ends up emerging from, because it makes up for the cold nature that T often assumes. Thus, you get INTP, which often appears as quite intelligent, logical, and fair/balenced. Something INFJ's will strive for (who wouldn't want to be that)?
I may not be straight, but I certainly do not like to be seen as girly, illogical, and emotional (it gets to me when people think that of me). No guy really wants to be seen that way because it is largely unattractive. There is a small minority of people who do find it attractive. It's just that though, a minority.