You know those moments when you're in an awkward conversation with someone and you could either consciously choose to say something or let the awkward atmosphere to continue? Those moments are moments where you are hyper-conscious of the situation. Now, how about a daily chit-chat with a very familiar friend? Usually, you don't think a lot in those situations. You don't think much about what to say, you just say something. That's what I call natural socialization. You just say whatver comes up in your head or whatever you feel like talking about. My question is which is better for socialization? From experience, i find that its always better when you have a natural conversation. In fact, that's where you eventually want things to turn into. Friendships and familiarity are composed of natural conversations. The problem is when your brain gives you absolutely no automatic drive to say something. You end up creating a silent awkwardness and there is very limited interaction and socialization development happening between you and the other person. In these situations, it seems much more beneficial to force a conversation. Force conversations however are fake and uncomfortable and it doesnt really create genuine interactions.