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Physical vs. Personality differences

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    What do people assume about you because of your physical appearance - any aspect of it?


    From your pov, how are you treated because of your appearance?


    Do you think your physical appearance reflects how you feel or think pretty well, or do you think it obscures who you are?


    What do you think people miss or too easily ignore because of assumptions made you based on their impressions of your appearance?
     
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    I have found that it can be more difficult for me to gain respect from some people due to my physical appearance. I have to prove my capabilities rather than just being accepted as a normal person would.

    I have also actually run into people who think I am mentally deficient due to my appearance (I'm probably mentally deficient for unrelated reasons hehe =P). Even after having conversations with me they will think this simply because I am in a wheelchair and look a bit odd.

    It's annoying, but I don't associate with those types for long anyway and in most circumstances I don't hold it against people.
     
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    I don't actually know, since people don't generally attempt to initiate contact with me whatsoever... this may be because I'm 6'3" and quiet.
     
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    I mean, can't really blame anyone for judging on appearance because that's the first thing most of see when we meet someone, but it can be a bit disappointing to have someone miss who you are because they're too focused on how you look.
     
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    I'd have to say my appearance suits who I am pretty well, but in some ways more than others. I kind of have a gloomy presence, which I kind of like because I'm not necessarily teeming with ever present energy. People often assume that it's because I have a hard time enjoying myself and living in the moment. I'd disagree, but I can't. While technically I can enjoy myself in the moment, I tend to take things more seriously or on a deeper lever than most. I'm always thinking about what everything means, not just 'having fun.'

    Because I'm a thin guy with glasses, people tend to assume I'm one of those mathematical/ scientific people. Actually, I'm really much more of an artist. From what I choose to wear, more intuitive people tend to pick up on my creativity, but mostly I just get "so you're smart, right?"

    The other thing is, my face is very unemotional looking. This usually makes people think I'm really rigid and unfeeling, which is definitely untrue.

    Just like in most cases, though, people really have to take the time to get to know me, or else they come up with some presumptuous ideas of their own. Even some people I've known for years have no idea who I really am, just who they think I am.
     
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    What do people assume about you because of your physical appearance - any aspect of it?

    When people see me, they assume that I am a friendly, happy go-lucky person, albeit boring and bookish


    From your pov, how are you treated because of your appearance?
    I feel invisible a lot, not necessarily a bad thing, but still


    Do you think your physical appearance reflects how you feel or think pretty well, or do you think it obscures who you are?
    Somewhat, especially my eyes, but otherwise no
    What do you think people miss or too easily ignore because of assumptions made you based on their impressions of your appearance?

    My quirkiness
     
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    Anita, do you have some sort of 1001 book of questions??? Not complaining because you always have such insightful questions...

    What do people assume about you because of your physical appearance - any aspect of it?
    I dont' think I look outside the "norm" so to speak.

    From your pov, how are you treated because of your appearance?
    I have found that some people will discriminate because I am brown.

    Do you think your physical appearance reflects how you feel or think pretty well, or do you think it obscures who you are?
    I think that is hard to say. I think people can pick up on my "leave me alone" attitude and the "prefers not to interact or have you touch me" attitude. I am also pretty confident and I think that is reflected in my demeanor. None of these things are technically part of my appearance.

    What do you think people miss or too easily ignore because of assumptions made you based on their impressions of your appearance?
    I do look young for my age. I think people look or treat me different because they misjudge my age.
     
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    How so?
     
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    My opionins on how people misjudge me because of my age, thats tough to pin down. They assume I am not in my 40's. I have been carded going into a casino or buying smokes for my sister. I don't think I look really young but pretty much don't look 40, at least that's what people tell me all the time.

    I feel like they assume the reason I am not married or have kids is because I am young, not because I have chosen not to be those things. I get alot of "you are so wise for someone so young" comments too. I tell people, "I promise I am old". I also get people assuming that I go out and party and hoop and hollar it up (so to speak) because they think I am in my late 20's or early 30's.

    I guess I may be projecting these things but I swear lots of people do such a double take when they find out how old I am. It is this obvious startlement that makes me feel that somehow they are rearranging their perception of me because they have found out how old I am. I usually say "You should see my mother."
     
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    Ah, ok. I think i can relate a little in that i have a younger looking face (i think or so i've been told - not sure how true it is) but i often feel as if i'm expected to act younger. I'm in my early 30s, but i have a look of innocence or inexperience (which is not far from the reality in some sense :D) but there's a feeling that i'm expected to rapport with them as if i'm younger. I'm much more conservative than average and don't really care to seem younger or older, but there is definite stereotyping out there of anyone who looks younger or older than they are or feel.
     
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    Tall, black, slender male. Therefore plays basketball (or some other sport).

    I tried changing my attire, but had only limited success.

    Other things are actually in my favor. I'm told I look older than I really am, which helps because I have a much mellower temperament than most guys my age, and tend to take things, if anything, too seriously.
     
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    This is a very good question. I really wonder what people see when they see me. My face is usually very transparent as to which emotions I am feeling - or, even at minimal transparency, you can tell whether I'm feeling good or not. I've been told it lights up when I'm happy and really falls when I'm upset. It's so true. The same transparency can sometimes be applied to my voice, although I'm much better at concealing that if need be.

    On the other hand, I know I look younger than my age, and typically 'harmless'. I probably also look quite serious and I might conduct myself in that way, so... *shrugs* I don't know.

    There are other factors that come into play, but it's hard to say. The setting also has a lot to do with it.
     
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