[INFJ] opinion about ourselves, opinion about yourself!

So sweet. You let me know any time you need a hug, OK?

 

It's yours! You stay in it as long as you need. Deal?

 

It's okay uri dongsaeng, you can breathe. Let's start bit by bit. How did you find this forum?

 

I feel you.

Growing up I also felt totally different from my peers and I felt that I couldn't relate to anyone, not even my parents. I felt alone because I felt that no one would be able to begin to understand me even if I shared with them, so I kept quiet and faked my smile around my peers. I'm also a perfectionist so I know how frustrating it can get.

What helped me was getting my degree in Psychology. This journey helped me take the time to learn about humans and to really think about my values and my strengths and weaknesses.

Nowadays there are a lot of people who know who I am while I have never met them, I have tons of acquaintances, around 10 friends and 1 close friend; I am not alone anymore.

So yeah, analysing and trying to understand yourself is a step in the right direction. You will find the answer, I have faith in you.

 

Oh so you feel like you stand out and people are looking at you as if you're weird.

It's true, as you said, so many people struggle with not being understood. I find it sad that we live in a world more connected than ever, yet we fail so miserably at truly connecting with each other.

I'm glad that you have such a great friend. Finding someone who makes the effort to understand and be there for you is a precious thing in life. ^^

I wish you well on your self-discovery journey.

Also, I'm not a Psychologist....yet (One needs at least a Master's degree along with supervised practice; only then one can apply to get licensed and legally call himself a Psychologist) and I can't even begin to pretend that I understand people as there are so many factors involved and everyone goes through different huddles in life. There's no need to admire me, I'm just an ordinary guy working in Human Resources. One day I'll become an Organisational Psychologist...but that's a chapter in my life that's yet to be written. ^^

 

Hi dear! Totally by accident! Watching videos on YouTube an algorithm made the suggestion of a video with the acronm INFJ... MBTI is not diffused here in Brazil... So I started hearing the twilight zone song lol.... And some weeks ago I found this forum.... And I discovered my weirdness are not defects...

 

@Asa, actually I hear yet , everyday, my weirdness called as defects... But I think : "stop talking bullshit! This is a feature u don't understand!". Discovering that, give me a peaceful feeling that nothing can pay!

 

I had a test in college at 21 that told me I was an INFJ. Didn't really explore it. Had a depressive period during 22-24 and at 24 I found an explanation about what MBTI types were, retested and got INFJ again. Really read into what INFJ type description and it was profound moment that was like "Oh I'm not malfunctioning, strange or weird". I'm 35 now and have been exploring MBTI pretty heavy for the last 5 years.

Synergos you seem like a kind and gentle man. You appear to be functioning in a very kind, loving and peaceful manner. I'm sorry if you get told you're defective.

 

I wanted to second this as I feel it, too.

You're giving off great vibes @Synergos.

 

Human personality class.

Our lecturer had the whole class take the test then grouped us per type for an activity... Out of 200+ students, I ended up alone and my lecturer went like: "Oh it's been a while since I've had an INFJ in my class!"

I felt so confused and uncomfortable that day lol. xD

 

My opinion of INFJ....

It’s the very base model idea/theory of a human. Like the frame of a Harley. Theoretically, each frame is designed and built to spec from print on an assembly line.
In theory, each one is identical.

Now, come in and add the wiring, the engine, accessories, etc. Each complete bike built to spec, gone through QC, etc. only differences is color.

Go for a ride on one. No 2 bikes handle or ride the same. Each has it’s own quirks and issues built. They are all in fact different creatures.

Now add a rider. The rider changes this or that. Adds and takes away. Different handle bars, seats, pipes, carb, upgrades, downgrades, engine setups, you name it.

It’s still the same model at it’s core. But the experience with the rider changes all the rest of the personality of the bike.

One bike might be neglected, left to rust, but still ridable. One might be left stock, babied, maintained, polished, barely ridden, and left in the garage. One might be customized to the hilt and maintained. One might be chopped and made custom or a show bike. Still another is road hard as shit thousands of miles and every nut and bolt rattled off at some point, yet replaced lovingly and caring by the rider.

All still the same bike.

To me, this sums up archetypes.