My vent from earlier today got me thinking about the whole nice guy and bad boy personas. i am starting to think that they are not so different. Now to start out I want to define the two since it is a rather broad definition. First the nice guy:
This is what you could call the fake nice guy. There are real nice guys out there who are sincere in their actions. They are good guys who care about the well being others and perhaps are a bit naive. Then you have the wimp who has no confidence and blames everybody but himself for his problems. This is the guy who is constantly complaining about how girls go for the bad boys and wonders why the girls don't want to have sex with him. Essentially his intentions are just as dirty and selfish as the bad boys but because of his lack of confidence he treats women like they are above him. They are the type of guy who hangs out with the girl they like who is dating another guy and hopes that when she leaves the other guy, she will go for him. He is a scavenger and his kindness is not real.
Bad boy:
This is the typical school bully. He will break rules just because he can. He will demoralize and insult others to maintain his belief that he is suprior. He views women as an object that is somehow below him. woman to him are ssexual objects and have no value to him beyond what pleasure they bring him. They are something he can dominate and women are his trophies. He will steal a girl from another guy and then dump her because was only interested because he could not have her.
By looking at the definitions we can aleady see that there are many similar things about the two which again leads me to believe that they are one in the same but simply act differently. Both view women as objects of their desire and not as equals. one puts women above them, the other below. This difference is just skin deep as it seems at the core that both are motivated by the same thing.
Both have faults in self confidence and self worth. The nice guy will act nice to get praised and the attention he desires while the bad boy will break rules and abuse the rights of others. It is still all done to gain attention and hide the fact that they are both weak at the core. The bad boy's arrogance and disregard for others and rules is often mistaken for confidence but it is used to hide the same weakness that is within the nice guy. This weakness partially revolves around the fact that neither believe they are at fault for anything. The bad boy thinks the outwardly weak are below them.The nice guy thinks he is not being given a fair shot but also just wants it handed to him. Both are envious of what others have and see not what they have.
This is part of the reason why have started to think that they are one in the same.
This is what you could call the fake nice guy. There are real nice guys out there who are sincere in their actions. They are good guys who care about the well being others and perhaps are a bit naive. Then you have the wimp who has no confidence and blames everybody but himself for his problems. This is the guy who is constantly complaining about how girls go for the bad boys and wonders why the girls don't want to have sex with him. Essentially his intentions are just as dirty and selfish as the bad boys but because of his lack of confidence he treats women like they are above him. They are the type of guy who hangs out with the girl they like who is dating another guy and hopes that when she leaves the other guy, she will go for him. He is a scavenger and his kindness is not real.
Bad boy:
This is the typical school bully. He will break rules just because he can. He will demoralize and insult others to maintain his belief that he is suprior. He views women as an object that is somehow below him. woman to him are ssexual objects and have no value to him beyond what pleasure they bring him. They are something he can dominate and women are his trophies. He will steal a girl from another guy and then dump her because was only interested because he could not have her.
By looking at the definitions we can aleady see that there are many similar things about the two which again leads me to believe that they are one in the same but simply act differently. Both view women as objects of their desire and not as equals. one puts women above them, the other below. This difference is just skin deep as it seems at the core that both are motivated by the same thing.
Both have faults in self confidence and self worth. The nice guy will act nice to get praised and the attention he desires while the bad boy will break rules and abuse the rights of others. It is still all done to gain attention and hide the fact that they are both weak at the core. The bad boy's arrogance and disregard for others and rules is often mistaken for confidence but it is used to hide the same weakness that is within the nice guy. This weakness partially revolves around the fact that neither believe they are at fault for anything. The bad boy thinks the outwardly weak are below them.The nice guy thinks he is not being given a fair shot but also just wants it handed to him. Both are envious of what others have and see not what they have.
This is part of the reason why have started to think that they are one in the same.