- Nov 24, 2008
I saw this on a PUA blog:
This really resonated with me. Comments, questions, concerns, regrets?David J. Lieberman said:Countless studies (and common sense) have established that we tend to like more those who like us. When we find out that someone thinks well of us, we in turn are unconsciously driven to find him or her more likeable as well.
Oddly enough, studies conclude that if someone started out not liking you and gradually came around to liking you, they will eventually like you more than if they had liked you right from the beginning. Keep in mind, if you don’t have a great relationship with them, don’t do a “180”, suddenly making this person your best friend. Studies show us that gradual liking is infinitively more effective than instantly becoming someone’s best friend. So don’t be overwhelming and ‘out of the blue’ their number-one fan. To engage the law of reciprocal affection gradually, let it be known that you are fond of this person.