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Late bloomers in da house?

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Late bloomers in da house?

I'm just now going through some experiences that others went through a long time ago. So, stuff that's old news to everyone is new to me. I just never had the typical young adult social life that's typical for many in the teens and the 20s. I was out of the loop for a long time. So, in a weird way, I'm just now going through my adolescence . . . in my 30s. I wonder if I'm the only one who has experienced this.

Were you a late bloomer - When, where, why and how?
 
Late bloomers in da house?

I'm just now going through some experiences that others went through a long time ago. So, stuff that's old news to everyone is new to me. I just never had the typical young adult social life that's typical for many in the teens and the 20s. I was out of the loop for a long time. So, in a weird way, I'm just now going through my adolescence . . . in my 30s. I wonder if I'm the only one who has experienced this.

Were you a late bloomer - When, where, why and how?

not really a late bloomer but i was married young and had a family before i knew it. after twenty years of that i found myself alone and single in a big world where the rules for dating had definitely changed!
it was fun to experience being single and out there, but at the same time i felt as awkward and prickly as i did when i was a teenager.
 
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I guess based on "normal" societal standards I would be considered a "late bloomer". I stopped socializing (for the most part) by the end of high school as I didn't agree/care to follow the paths that many of my friends took - In cutting off a lot of connections I delayed much of my personal growth. I've been working on it for awhile - trying to make new connections, or reestablish the important ones I had... but I stunted myself and now it's hard work just to reach a more "normal" standard.

I kind of skipped/opted out of many of the experiences my friends had; I went inward and tried to figure myself out (which I'm still working on a bit)... now I'm constantly working/trying to catch back up.
 
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I just never had the typical young adult social life that's typical for many in the teens and the 20s. I was out of the loop for a long time. So, in a weird way, I'm just now going through my adolescence . . . in my 30s. I wonder if I'm the only one who has experienced this.

What do you think held you back?
 
What do you think held you back?

There was nothing holding me back, that's just how life was at the time. There wasn't really anything too unusual about it at the time because culturally speaking, where I'm from, things were more conservative.
 
I think in some ways I am emotionally a late bloomer, during those years when people are supposed to be delving into themselves at like 18 or whatever I was way too busy trying to figure out how to make money (and consequentially spend it), build my business and learn to invest. In that regard I never delved into myself much spiritually until much more recently, It's made me build up quite a massive and narcissistic ego to destroy, but in the long run I think it will have been worth it. I am glad I have got to experience some of the things I have at a young age.
 
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I am for sure a late bloomer. I feel both physically and emotionally much younger than I truly am. People have commented on this as well. I act like I'm 18 years old. When I was really 18, I acted like I was 12. Intelligence wise, I am on par with my age group, but it always makes me seem quite immature. Which is in some ways correct.

The slow aging runs in my family, some especially more so than others. I have a cousin who at age 15 looked 8 years old. She had to go to a specialist who determined her bone structure indeed was aging as that of an 8 year old, which was really strange.
 
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