I’m going through a stressful time which has caused me to pretty much cut off all of my friends, and the only people I’ve been communicating with outside of work is my ENFP mother and my ENTP boyfriend of 2 years.
Me and my mom usually get along, but it’s not unusual for me and my boyfriend to get in arguements, so I originally started researching the MBTI in a desperate attempt to save our relationship. I used to get really upset because I didn’t understand why he would act the way he does sometimes, and it was actually really enlightening for me to realize, our brains don’t work the same way, and it helped me to be a little more understanding when he doesn’t seem as emotional or when he says something a brutally honest.
He sometimes says things like “you’re way too emotional.” Or “you think too much” or “why don’t you get more friends?”, so I was trying to tell him about the MBTI and he started cutting me off saying “this looks like the math that I hated in school! Noooo. You should just give up on that. Nooo no no”. I finally just sent a few of the INFJ traits to him and said “doesn’t this sound like me?” And when he said “yeah, it does”, I was finally able to explain it a bit. I don’t know if it will really help our relationship at all though.
I also told my mom about the MBTI and she seemed interested and we had some really good conversations about it, but then she still doesn’t seem to care to try not to stress me out when I try to tell her that what she’s doing is stressful for me. We’re in a situation where we need to move ASAP, and I’m constantly trying to figure out what I can do to earn more money and find a cheap place for us to move, but one morning when I got up for work, she starts going on and on about why we better hurry up and move or we’re going to be homeless again, and I had a meltdown because I’m already stressing about it and it just makes me stress even more because I can’t do anything more than what I’m already doing, but she acts like she doesn’t understand why I reacted like that when she was “just saying” . It happens a lot where she ends up stressing about things and talking about them constantly and then when I have a panic attack she thinks I’m crazy. Even after explaining to her, I don’t get why she doesn’t understand.
Me and my mom usually get along, but it’s not unusual for me and my boyfriend to get in arguements, so I originally started researching the MBTI in a desperate attempt to save our relationship. I used to get really upset because I didn’t understand why he would act the way he does sometimes, and it was actually really enlightening for me to realize, our brains don’t work the same way, and it helped me to be a little more understanding when he doesn’t seem as emotional or when he says something a brutally honest.
He sometimes says things like “you’re way too emotional.” Or “you think too much” or “why don’t you get more friends?”, so I was trying to tell him about the MBTI and he started cutting me off saying “this looks like the math that I hated in school! Noooo. You should just give up on that. Nooo no no”. I finally just sent a few of the INFJ traits to him and said “doesn’t this sound like me?” And when he said “yeah, it does”, I was finally able to explain it a bit. I don’t know if it will really help our relationship at all though.
I also told my mom about the MBTI and she seemed interested and we had some really good conversations about it, but then she still doesn’t seem to care to try not to stress me out when I try to tell her that what she’s doing is stressful for me. We’re in a situation where we need to move ASAP, and I’m constantly trying to figure out what I can do to earn more money and find a cheap place for us to move, but one morning when I got up for work, she starts going on and on about why we better hurry up and move or we’re going to be homeless again, and I had a meltdown because I’m already stressing about it and it just makes me stress even more because I can’t do anything more than what I’m already doing, but she acts like she doesn’t understand why I reacted like that when she was “just saying” . It happens a lot where she ends up stressing about things and talking about them constantly and then when I have a panic attack she thinks I’m crazy. Even after explaining to her, I don’t get why she doesn’t understand.