INFJs strong?
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why can't you be both?
i consider myself very strong, although i sometimes wish i could just be soft and vulnerable. just for a day even.
it's just not the way my life worked out. i am forged by my experiences to a great degree.
because i've been this tough in your face person my whole life no one allows/believes/wants to think that i can be weak or feel unsure or afraid.
Yes, mentally I am very strong, I'm very independant in that I don't really need anybody emotionally, I figure everything out for myself and rarely have I ever had any advice that was helpful. It's funny because I am exceptionally sensitive and physically I look and am extremely thin and fragile.
So where does this strength come from? Resilience included.
I would never think of myself as strong, but my friends told me that I'm someone who "gets high on a challenge".
Honestly I think it comes from my mentality of 'if you're not going to do it, no one will'.
i developed resilience through being constantly knocked down by strong people and having to pick myself up again. haha.
i get high on a challenge too if that is a form of strength. the feeling of achievement, competence, and learning.
i get high on a challenge too if that is a form of strength. the feeling of achievement, competence, and learning.
i guess my strength, or what i consider to be strength anyway, started out as a defense mechanism, then a survival tool, and now it's just part of me.
At times I think I'm stronger than most... but I know I'm really fooling myself. Being independent/ always solving your own problems takes a toll...(In other words) If I wasn't so stubborn (in regards to being independent), I'd be much better off.
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I feel the same way a lot of the time but I'm f@#king tired of being single.
I see INFJs as very resilient, and know they can be very strong when they have the resources. I do not see them as flexible though, unless it's a matter of survival (and even then maybe not), especially when it comes to a lot of things they value. Most of the time it's only annoying for the people that have to deal with them though.
haha, annoying isn't quite the right word. It's more like enraging. I piss people off a lot sometimes with how I argue.
it's okay i guess if you don't mind your friends calling you "selfish", "anal", "difficult", ostracizing you, etc. tho i personally have never argued with an infj except for my one longterm ex. i don't really find it hard to understand that someone thinks strongly of something, unless it oppresses me or directly and unfairly oppresses others that i care about in some way.
People get mad at me for my disregard for others opinions at points. I'm not always like that but I am sometimes but there are times when I know I'm right, which can be frustrating.