Hey, INFJ woman here.
So, I started to liking my guitar teacher and don't know what to do....
At the begging of this year I started learning playing the guitar. I was looking for a teacher and found him via our mutual friends.
Recently I found out that I started to develop feelings for him... I mean, I like him, don't know if as a friend or more, but it makes me wonder and overthink A LOT lately.
He is one year younger than me, we're in our late 20s. He's truly a wonderful person, very kind, empathetic, thoughtful, inspiring, intelligent, blablabla. We talk a lot on our classes (I know, we should focus on the learning part but... as we have some mutual friends we started to talk about them first, then we found out that we share same hobbies, approach to life, like similar things, etc.), there is always something to talk about, but as it goes, me or him tries to stop this when we go with the flow too much
talk a bit, and then go to the learning part.
So, almost from the beginning we have good connection, but maybe it's because he's very open and out-going person, which company makes you feel warm-welcomed.
Sooo, many weeks ago I started to notice that he's blushing when talking to me about the things he tries to teach me. When he plays, he's superconfident, but when explaining something or when I'm gazing into his eyessweatsmile he starts feeling uncomfortable (?). I do not know, it's subconscious. I feel he acts differently.
I always enjoy our lessons, he tries to make me feel good, offers me drinks (recently we drunk coffee at 7 pm) and teaches new things but he always explains them veeeeery slowly. Like I feel I would do it much quicker, and he focuses on details very much (wants me to learn the best possible way).
Recently, he invited me to his band's first concert (I started to panicking when hearing this and almost immediately response that I will go there with me friend). It was great, I really enjoyed it. I catched him after that to congratulate, he welcomed me (it was a "weird" energy between us, I acted weirdly as always, but so does he, we talked for about two minutes with my friend and his friend also), he needed to talk to other people and go. Then I texted him it was great to go there and he replied that it was cool I was there.
After that we had one lesson, we talked for 20 minutes about the concert, random stuff that we found out we like together and then we started to have a lesson about the music theory. And then, again, a huge blushing on his cheeks, he couldn't stop looking into my eyes, but also tried to focus on the topic....
I don't know what to think. I'm confused. My gut feelings tells me there is something going on. On the other hand I know he's a very open person (don't know his MBTI type, I think he's an extrovert), social, have many friends and people around, so maybe he is just like that. Very kind, nothing more. And it's all in my head, as I love to OVERTHINK EVERYTHING and look for some clues.
I started to feel that this whole situation is too much for me, I can't no longer focus on playing and learning. It shouldn't be that way. I'm thinking of leaving the classes, but what can I say? Should I confess my feelings or do something?
One day I think to just simply run away, come with some stupid explaination and vanish. On the other hand, I had similar situation many years ago, when a guy liked me very much, I liked him too but even though, I hadn't confessed my feelings and sometimes think what it would be like if I would say something.....
But this time maybe it's all in my head.
Any advices? Please help
So, I started to liking my guitar teacher and don't know what to do....
At the begging of this year I started learning playing the guitar. I was looking for a teacher and found him via our mutual friends.
Recently I found out that I started to develop feelings for him... I mean, I like him, don't know if as a friend or more, but it makes me wonder and overthink A LOT lately.
He is one year younger than me, we're in our late 20s. He's truly a wonderful person, very kind, empathetic, thoughtful, inspiring, intelligent, blablabla. We talk a lot on our classes (I know, we should focus on the learning part but... as we have some mutual friends we started to talk about them first, then we found out that we share same hobbies, approach to life, like similar things, etc.), there is always something to talk about, but as it goes, me or him tries to stop this when we go with the flow too much
talk a bit, and then go to the learning part. So, almost from the beginning we have good connection, but maybe it's because he's very open and out-going person, which company makes you feel warm-welcomed.
Sooo, many weeks ago I started to notice that he's blushing when talking to me about the things he tries to teach me. When he plays, he's superconfident, but when explaining something or when I'm gazing into his eyes
sweatsmile he starts feeling uncomfortable (?). I do not know, it's subconscious. I feel he acts differently. I always enjoy our lessons, he tries to make me feel good, offers me drinks (recently we drunk coffee at 7 pm
) and teaches new things but he always explains them veeeeery slowly. Like I feel I would do it much quicker, and he focuses on details very much (wants me to learn the best possible way).Recently, he invited me to his band's first concert (I started to panicking when hearing this and almost immediately response that I will go there with me friend
). It was great, I really enjoyed it. I catched him after that to congratulate, he welcomed me (it was a "weird" energy between us, I acted weirdly as always, but so does he, we talked for about two minutes with my friend and his friend also), he needed to talk to other people and go. Then I texted him it was great to go there and he replied that it was cool I was there. After that we had one lesson, we talked for 20 minutes about the concert, random stuff that we found out we like together and then we started to have a lesson about the music theory. And then, again, a huge blushing on his cheeks, he couldn't stop looking into my eyes, but also tried to focus on the topic....
I don't know what to think. I'm confused. My gut feelings tells me there is something going on. On the other hand I know he's a very open person (don't know his MBTI type, I think he's an extrovert), social, have many friends and people around, so maybe he is just like that. Very kind, nothing more. And it's all in my head, as I love to OVERTHINK EVERYTHING and look for some clues.
I started to feel that this whole situation is too much for me, I can't no longer focus on playing and learning. It shouldn't be that way. I'm thinking of leaving the classes, but what can I say? Should I confess my feelings or do something?
One day I think to just simply run away, come with some stupid explaination and vanish. On the other hand, I had similar situation many years ago, when a guy liked me very much, I liked him too but even though, I hadn't confessed my feelings and sometimes think what it would be like if I would say something.....
But this time maybe it's all in my head.
Any advices? Please help
