I thought I'd write this because I think I have a good idea on it and also to dispel tendentious notions myself or others may have. So if any of you INFJ want to chime in, your fellow MBTI types would like to know.
So here goes in no particular order...
1) Do not be dishonest or try to be sneaky around an INFJ. In my opinion, INFJ are one of the sharpest and most in tune with people, they will discern the bullshit from the honesty. You could lose their trust, and depending on the degree, the whole relationship. They're natural empathizers, and often wonder what people are thinking and feeling at any given moment, coupled with Ni, they're human lie detectors.
2) Plan out your date with an INFJ the best you can, don't take them on a generic dinner and movie date, they've probably had their share of underwhelming lackluster dates already. Chances are they'll love going hiking, to an art show, to an indie concert, a play with good acting, or a comedy show (most of them really like satire)
A: If you do take them to dinner, do not go to a chain or deep fry restaurant. Most INFJ have very sensitive digestive systems and are usually very health concious, many become vegan or vegetarian because of this. So if you take them to a McDonald's, they'll probably be disgusted with you and feel like crap afterwards too.
3) Keep your small talk to a minimum and only the necessities, INFJ want depth in the conversation right away.
4) They want to be understood. Many go through through life never realizing what they are, never discovering MBTI, filtering their thoughts and self to accord with a partner that completely doesn't get them.
5) Don't ask an INFJ to have sex, seduce them romantically. It goes without saying don't fuck an INFJ, make love to them.
6) Like all introverts, their brains produce less dopamine than extroverts, which is necessary for communication and interacting. Don't feel disparaged if they need alone time, they'll be back to you in no time. Jung was quoted as saying "Solitude is for me a fount of healing which makes my life worth living."
I'll edit this later and add some more.
So here goes in no particular order...
1) Do not be dishonest or try to be sneaky around an INFJ. In my opinion, INFJ are one of the sharpest and most in tune with people, they will discern the bullshit from the honesty. You could lose their trust, and depending on the degree, the whole relationship. They're natural empathizers, and often wonder what people are thinking and feeling at any given moment, coupled with Ni, they're human lie detectors.
2) Plan out your date with an INFJ the best you can, don't take them on a generic dinner and movie date, they've probably had their share of underwhelming lackluster dates already. Chances are they'll love going hiking, to an art show, to an indie concert, a play with good acting, or a comedy show (most of them really like satire)
A: If you do take them to dinner, do not go to a chain or deep fry restaurant. Most INFJ have very sensitive digestive systems and are usually very health concious, many become vegan or vegetarian because of this. So if you take them to a McDonald's, they'll probably be disgusted with you and feel like crap afterwards too.
3) Keep your small talk to a minimum and only the necessities, INFJ want depth in the conversation right away.
4) They want to be understood. Many go through through life never realizing what they are, never discovering MBTI, filtering their thoughts and self to accord with a partner that completely doesn't get them.
5) Don't ask an INFJ to have sex, seduce them romantically. It goes without saying don't fuck an INFJ, make love to them.
6) Like all introverts, their brains produce less dopamine than extroverts, which is necessary for communication and interacting. Don't feel disparaged if they need alone time, they'll be back to you in no time. Jung was quoted as saying "Solitude is for me a fount of healing which makes my life worth living."
I'll edit this later and add some more.
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