It seems that as I get older being assertive becomes easier and more natural for me. It largely has to do with me being tired of being around "soft" people and it angers me in a sense, so I do what I can to go around that. One of the biggest caveats to this though is I have to be able to justify being assertive in some way. In essence I have to have a reason for it, and it can not cross a boundary that I have set, or that the overall group has set (except in rare cases where group boundaries need to be crossed). I understand that not everyone is confortable with being assertive. However if someone is so non-assertive that they actually get walked over by others and do nothing about it, well, those people are not worth my time at all and I want to smack them for it.
It seems that as I get older being assertive becomes easier and more natural for me. It largely has to do with me being tired of being around "soft" people and it angers me in a sense, so I do what I can to go around that. One of the biggest caveats to this though is I have to be able to justify being assertive in some way. In essence I have to have a reason for it, and it can not cross a boundary that I have set, or that the overall group has set (except in rare cases where group boundaries need to be crossed). I understand that not everyone is confortable with being assertive. However if someone is so non-assertive that they actually get walked over by others and do nothing about it, well, those people are not worth my time at all and I want to smack them for it.
being assertive is kind of my weak point. when im not doing something for myself its easy for me, like if its a cause or something i see as bigger than myself, bc at that point i see it as necessary and non negotiable. when it comes to things i Want on the other hand i can just as easily talk myself out of wanting something than aggressively pursue it, im kind of a minimalist.
When, where, how and why?
does it usually feel comfortable, uncomfortable, neutral?
Do you think being assertive is necessary to get what you want or need in life? Why or why not?
What do you think of assertiveness training?
When, where, how and why?
does it usually feel comfortable, uncomfortable, neutral?
Do you think being assertive is necessary to get what you want or need in life? Why or why not?
What do you think of assertiveness training?
I'm only assertive very occasionally... when people push me too far or there's something I feel I absolutely have to do.
It makes me feel a mixture of proud for standing up for myself and terrible because I might have upset someone else in the process of doing so.
I think people can get by without being assertive, just not in certain professions - business, for example, needs you to push yourself out. So do customer service jobs.
I think the training would be okay, only so long as the person who did it felt they really needed it themselves and weren't pushed into it by others - because that would be kind of ironic...
It's a shame this society relies so heavily of assertiveness to get anything done. If everyone sat down and talked it through as equals.... naw, it'd never work XD