HELP! ENFP trying to read an INFJ

You better MAKE her love you

 

Obviously you have deep feelings for her. The fact that you wrote this post proves it.You say you don't want anything to come from this but I find it hard to believe. The fact that you want to be alone in a room with her is asking for trouble. A lot can happen. I think you have to be honest with yourself. If you think you love her and you want to go further you better make sure she feels the same way. From your post she seems hot and cold. Is she being that way because she doesn't want anything to happen? Is she afraid something is going to happen? Does she even have the same feelings about you and does she even have the courage to leave her current relationship?

If you truly do not want anything to happen than let her go. Stop torturing yourself and end it. If you want something to happen you better be ready for everything that comes after.

I'll share with you something very personal. That is how I met my current wife. She was in an unhappy marriage and we both intuitively knew we could be so great together. She is an ISFJ. Great combo by the way. ISFJ/INFJ. The separation was very difficult and we were both judged harshly. I lost a lot of friends and respect from people that use to care for me. It was very hard to take. Up to this day I have no regrets and I am truly happy. That which does not kill you makes you stronger. If I had to do it again I would. From this experience I have developed a warrior attitude. Things do not get to me as much anymore. People can be so self righteous. If this is what you want, be ready for everything that comes after. Karma is not something we experience in a future life, it is experienced in this lifetime; in the here and now based on our decisions and actions. If you are true to your heart and she as well, everything will work itself out in the end.

I wish you well.

 

@somewhereovertheocean I think you are feeling a very intense charge over the potential for a relationship with this person. That can feel great but ? I think it can also be potentially dangerous for both of you. I think it may help if you can clarify in your own mind, just what you are feeling/thinking and why. If this is going to happen, I think your friend (as this is what she is currently) may benefit from doing the same.

I think all of the decisions about what you do/dont do need to be yours. I appreciate there have been other posts here, but they are based on their experiences, which are personal to them, not you. From my own personal experience ? Any kind of relationship which is unclear or may involve a third party or complication can be very difficult. My former partner ( I am recently separated) left her previous husband - but not because of me. She felt terrible and treated me appallingly at times, as though it was all my fault. It was destructive and wrong, but this is the kind of thing that can happen.

In no way do I want to discourage you, if you could be happy together, but I would urge you to think things through very carefully and encourage her to do the same. Something very basic I missed when I got together with my former partner, was how she treated others. Although she was initially loving and kind to me, she was not so to people she disliked. Eventually I was one of those people and received the same treatment.

I think the main danger to my mind, might be how you would feel as people if you get together. Infj's have a great capacity to torture themselves if they cross their own moral boundaries, and I can guess enfp's can also be this way. It may help to look back on your own post, and some of the things, like capitals etc you have used to stress certain things, and why you may have done that. What drove that emphasis? I'm not being a critic, but it may or may not tell you something about what's going on internally.

On a different note, I think you should liberate yourself about your sexuality. It is a natural impulse, gender does not matter in the slightest, which is evidenced all across nature itself. Religion is usually interpreted by humans, not a diety. Dimiss any conflict you have felt. You are who you are, and as nature/god intended.

Take care and best wishes.

 

Just focus on being genuine and yourself. My husband is an ENFP and the first thing that attracted me to him was that. Hes someone I can be my true self around and that is GOLD!

 

One magical moment makes life worth living! Sounds like you are both quite capable of dealing with heartbreak & taking care of yourselves. Great guru @ electricwavelengths@gml
fact: not all infj's are the same, & some will blow your fucking mind, some will even rip your entrails out if you cross their or their loved one's dark side, and some... well let's just say they're cosmic forces of energy - actually all that could encompass 1 bc that's just the tip of the berg.
Good luck and happy trails xxxo

 

Perhaps try replacing 'heart' with 'fear'

 

than just do it swoooosh

 

Wanna know something phenomenal? INFJ here. She spoke to no 1, she just knew. Wonder would happen if we all just took a year of silence.

 

so. . you are both adults, right? You already know what you want, or at least your heart does. it seems that she is interested in you, if not she would not be reaching out randomly via text. That seems a dead giveaway of INFJ expressing interest in someone. and since you respond, she senses a mutual feeling. of course I speak from my own point of view and how I would react and act if I felt someone was interested in me and I in them. .
Listen to your heart, it knows your truth

 

?
why not ask her?? God did his job

 

OP hasn't been on here since 2017 ... hope she worked everything out to her satisfaction .. it should be a rule that if you post a question like that, that you come back and tell us how it all panned out ..

 

I know silence and darkness like galadriel knows

The most fundamental lesson I learned once upon a time: simple house drawn on chalk board. Foundation labeled trust. Walls labeled communication. roof, protection, etc
house represented relationships of all forms. Communication is lost for me here, but I understand your needs & come in the peace of Galadriel. muah*

 

Apr 27, 2019
my response was to this statement: I know this is ridiculous, but for the love of God, someone please help me.

I'm scared of place like these. no 1 understands me. I have to go. I'm sorry for confusing you. I'd never do that
insert fucking sad face. phhhhhhhhheewwwwww emotional overload. I was kind. time to hide

 

Absolutely! Again, my apologies for my earlier response. Severe sleep deprivation & a wk of emotional overload with minimal to no alone time, among other things.. Wow?! I was overly sensitive & way off. Thanks for understanding & your kind msg. xo

 

Indeeeed a great combo..
As a child I was ISFJ but quickly developed into INFJ...
Carl Jung actually typed himself as either ISTP or INTP (former in childhood & latter in adulthood)
The possibilities are endless, AREN'T they?
Have you ever experienced karma, & if so, please share : )
R

 

Strengthen your inner self by removing all toxic relationships to

I have a feeling she wants you to do more than piece her together.. let go of fear & LIVE