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    I need some opinions please.

    My ex is an INFJ. The answer should be pretty clear to me. Though there is a slight pattern.

    We broke up previously 4 months ago. She ignored my texts for 2 weeks. Eventually she responded to messages on FB messenger. Then eventually a phone call. It took us a month to get back together.

    This time, it’s been 2 1/2 months. 3 weeks ago she blocked me on FB. This is odd because we weren’t friends on FB and her profile is friends only privacy. I wasn’t contacting her on FB or Messenger.

    Now, she said she was blocking my number when we broke up. However, we both have iPhones. My messages still say delivered. Obviously my number isn’t blocked. About once a week to every two weeks I got weak and texted her. No response.

    One text I told her she has my heart and I will never give up trying to reconcile, at least until she tells me to.

    The question is, Why do you think she won’t just tell me to let her go or there’s no chance?
     
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    This one is very simple: forget about her.
     
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    Would it be easy for you to close the door forever on the love of your life?
     
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    Hostarius Level 10 Cynical Optimist

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    Move on amigo. Plenty of fishies in the sea and a good chunk who won’t toy with your emotions and waste your time. Hope you heal from this soon. Separations are never easy.
     
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    Interesting comment. This is what I’m wondering. Also why I’m having a hard time with this despite being ignored.
     
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    Doesn't change the fact that they're messing with your emotions and that you should move on, as everyone has said here
     
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    I know I know. I’m a mess.
     
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    Don't worry about it, it's OK...

    JUST GET THAT BITCH OUT OF YOUR LIFE, STAT
     
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    LMAO! She’s apparently out of my life. I was just wondering about the reasonings. It seems it’s agreed. It does feel like she’s playing games.

    Though, dammit! I play devils advocate way to fucking much!
     
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    Thank you!
    Still I wonder. Okay, torturing myself. She has had a lot happen over this time. Like going through a custody battle. I keep hoping
    Maybe she doesn’t have the energy to deal with this right now. It does seem she’s toying with me. There can’t be anything logical by allowing someone to hang on like that knowing how much it hurts.
     
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    Wait, how old are you both?
     
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    I’m 42, she’s 37. Seems an immature thing for a 37 year old woman.
     
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    :flushed:

    I assumed you were teenagers.
     
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    Lmao! I can see why. This seems like something somebody my age would understand. I was married 20 years until 4 years ago. Had a few relationships since then. Though they were all cluster B types. Sociopathic, narcissist, histrionic, and a genuine psychopath.

    She was married about 15 years. Only had 2 LDR’s since, both of them including her ex were manipulative and emotionally abusive, not including me.

    In a sense, We are teenagers all things considered.
     
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    As a guy, information of what's going on in her mind isn't going to help you. You have your own emotions, your own decisions to make. Make a decision, and if it doesn't work out, don't dwell on it. You can't force people, so you basically did everything you could. Then move on.

    BTW, salvaging relationships doesn't work.
     
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    It’s not salvaging I’m looking for. The old relationship is dead. Just hoping in the future we can start new. Neither of us are the same people after all this. So hoping to just pick back up isn’t in the cards.
     
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    I'm sorry about your experience. :( If there are that many problems in the relationship then it's best to just find someone who will be more compatible with you. :) There is a reason that you broke up twice, and that reason isn't going to just go away. Know what I suggest? Stick around here. There are so many loving and understanding people to connect with. Who knows, maybe you can find someone. <3

    Us INFJs are confusing, especially when we don't know what we want. We can unintentionally lead people on, not wanting to lose that connection just in case we decide later on that we want you back. Although in our mind we don't consciously know this, it's more like we are just unsure and don't know what to do. But that still isn't fair to you. Don't put up with it. If she chooses to ignore you, then let it go, don't read into it. There are ladies out there that need someone like you and you are chasing someone who isn't giving you the time of day. You deserve better. :)

    Welcome, and good luck. Learn from this. :)
     
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