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  1. ImDivergent

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    Hi,
    I haven't posted before so sorry if this is the wrong spot. So I've known I was an INFJ for a long time, but I didn't know until recently that my "quirks" are literally just built into my personality (like inability to fake a smile, loving being around people some days then feeling desperate for alone time the next, etc.) My question is: Does anyone else feel like their always the "weird" one in the room, even though they go out of their way to appear perfectly "normal"?
     
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    Yes, welcome to being an INFJ lol. Where you feel like the weird unicorn of the world, want to love on people, yet want to be away from them like the plague.

    We are a complicated yet awsum bunch that’s for sure! :D

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    My condolences; it's the curse of being an INFJ:sob::sob::sob:

    You'll fit right in on here though; some beautiful people on here.
     
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    I feel weird and out of place all the time-- especially the more I pay attention to that feeling.
     
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    Hit the nail on the head there JD...:sweatsmile::sweat::disrelieved::sob:

    :tearsofjoy:
     
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    I used to, but I stopped bothering a long time ago. Strangely, people like you even more when you do that, because they appreciate the authenticity.

    The thing is, everybody feels this way, because ultimately we aren't conforming to each other but to a construction of 'normality'.

    The ironic thing is that adherence to this 'normal' is part of the deeply hard-wired human reflex to foster the spirit of the community, but the true expression of this spirit can only be experienced when we fully discard the 'normal' and embrace each other in all of our weird particularity. To get to this 'unconditional acceptance' out there, however, first requires that you accept yourself in here, and here and now is as good a time to start as any.

    This song is ripped from a video game I was into for as good while, and it expresses this sentiment well in my opinion. Funnily enough, I think it's more meaningful because it comes from such an unexpected place - the truth has a tendency to be irrepressible in such ways; it bursts through the seams of reality of it's own accord, carried in the hearts of all human beings.

    And we all lift -
    and we're all adrift together
    Together
    Through the cold mist
    'Till we're lifeless, together
    Together
     
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    @Hostarius, I'm getting Gandalf the White vibes form you recently bro. Your posts shine with wisdom bud.

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    Oh, thanks, Jonah.

    I'm just returning to a more centered place, that's all. Like I said before, we all oscillate between the poles of certainty and doubt, but this is a generative process that ought not to be shunned. Don't worry, I'm sure I'll go back to whinging like a little bitch at some point ;)
     
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    I know what you mean man; I feel the same within myself. I have that positive energy within me again after fucking ages and feel like I've garnered some clarity from within the darkness before, both mentally an spiritually. It's hard to explain the feeling.

    I'm sure it's going to return and although I feel like it's never going to end when it does, the one truth I have found every-time is that I submerge from it a little stronger and a bit more wiser. Always feels like a fresh start.

    Take it easy brother.
     
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    That's really good to hear, Jonah. Yes I agree, most of the time we come out of the lake stronger and wiser. I wouldn't ever wish away those experiences... I wouldn't mind some positive ones punted my way once in a while, lol, but the negative ones deserve their place. Absolutely.

    You too, my friend.
     
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    Yeah, I've always had different priorities from my friends. I've had to resist temptation and distraction to stay on top of my work. As a teenager, it was horrible, it still is horrible as an adult but I don't have another choice.

    I'm optimistic about the future because my dreams are coming true. My friends don't know what that's like, to make your dreams come true.
     
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    Yes, I always found that when I was a lot younger and in company it was like I was on the outside in the street looking at them through their windows, all warm and cosy in their living rooms. I can do chameleon and mirror them, but not brilliantly and it takes a lot of effort to keep it up - ES types are the hardest for me. The compensation is that you can have real magic in your life and most of them don't. As I got older the stereotypes loosened in my mind and I started to see that often it was me that was normal and all the others were the weird ones - and I got more confident about just being myself. People seem to expect eccentricity more from older folks than young ones, so that helps :D. What never works for me though is Ni / Ti looping in public - except with friendly INTPs of course. Sadly, I'm a bit addicted to it ;)
     
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    I never feel odd. I just feel even. Does that make me the odd one out?

    Jokes aside,
    Pretty much this.

    I suspect the more attention we pay to this feeling, the more we amplify it. (As that's how focusing works, isn't it. Noticing one thing and excluding all other things.)
    And this too.

    Well, you have to use Fe to interact with the friendly INTPs, so are you really Ni/Ti looping then? ;)
     
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    I never use Fe with an INTP if I can help it. It’s like feeding beer to a cat. If they drink it they start acting strangely and make a mess in their litter box ;).

    Joking aside possibly not, but when I articulate the hikes that Ti takes around my Ni I don’t think there’s a lot of Fe in it. I’m more focused on extracting the idea - at interminable length - than how it’s being received.
     
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    Yes, I used to feel a lot weirder than I do now. I still feel like I’m a bit more detached than everyone else around me. Like I’m part of the story and reading it at the same time.
     
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    I've never felt odd or weird - to me, I make perfect sense. Others find me weird, yes.
     
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    Yes, although I have learned how to pretend to be normal.
     
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