Thanks for the advice,
@acd! I only wanted to talk about that because he
told me I was coming on a bit strong, and it was freaking him out. For me, when someone has a problem/is bothered by how I'm acting, I want to fix it- ESPECIALLY if it's someone I really care about. And I'm starting to really care about him. So naturally I wanted to know what I could do to make him feel more comfortable, but you're right; he doesn't like talking about his feelings, and things like that. That's not entirely true, but close enough. It's not going too bad now. We're talking mostly like before. I was planning to give him space but he sorta started talking to me so I've been going along with it, letting him set the pace.
When someone is excited to be with you and wants you, you won't have to work too hard for them to communicate. On the other hand, people don't work on our personal timetables. They operate on their own. He may be reluctant and cautious because of past experiences, and doesn't want to go hard too soon, and feel overwhelmed.
However, someone of the opposite energy level doesn't always pan out. I've been in a similar situation, and it sucks. It can be energy draining. While it's great that you both like each other, you shouldn't have to change yourself or suppress yourself too much to be with him. If you are always having to adjust to fit his personality, that wears on you after a while. Yes, nothing is wrong with giving him his space, but if he's not willing to reciprocate some of that energy you're putting out for him, and if he's not willing to step out of his comfort zone to meet you half way in expressing his interest (not just saying he's interested), it may not be the best type of person for you in the long run. He may be expecting you to make more effort than he is, making his life easier, which is not fair to you.
Yes, maybe sometimes we can be more intense than others, but you shouldn't have to play yourself down too much for the other person. If they really like you, they shouldn't expect you to diminish who you are just to please them. It's not a good idea to people please him, and change to fit someone you like so much. He may not appreciate the effort, and may expect you to always change to fit what he wants or feels. So, be wary of thinking you are responsible for accommodating his feelings about everything.
There is also something to be said about letting him come to you, and not expressing so much towards him. Let him learn to appreciate you by being the one to initiate, and take some responsibility for developing your mutual interest. Sit back a little, and let him pursue you. If you're doing all the work of pushing the relationship forward, it's going to feel one-sided, and you may not truly know if the feelings are reciprocated since you're the one initialing all the communication efforts. You don't want him to think that he doesn't have to do as much because he sees you are initiating most of the time including expressing feelings. But you don't want to express too intense feelings to soon either. It may be overwhelming and you may misunderstand what you're feeling. You may simply be experiencing limerence (
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence). He may also feel he doesn't or shouldn't have to do much since you usually take the initiative in communicating.
So, think carefully about what you truly want. Remember, he has his own thoughts and feelings that may not match with yours. Also, there should be balance in actions both of you take to develop the relationship. Shouldn't be one-sided.
If you rush into it based on the intense feelings, you may have a situation where you experience a huge amount of passionate feeling initially, but then it burns out quickly for one or both of you. If you want something lasting, let it take its time to build. Even if you feel strongly, take it in steps. Gung ho may tire out a relationship quickly. Take it easy. No rush.
