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  1. AUM

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    In Freudian terms it means your superego constantly trying to make you feel guilty about your decisions.

    I'm going to get paid in a week of a job that I did a while back, and I was planning on buying a new laptop with that money. However, I was started feeling guilty that I should probably use that money in buying my brother his Wii that he has wanted for a long time. The thing is that I almost always feel guilty in pampering myself with stuff instead of giving it to others.

    Do any of you have this tendency as well? And how do you overcome it?
     
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    Nope.

    Unless my brother had a wii, and I broke it I won't feel guilty about buying a laptop.

    I will feel guilty if I don't get a good deal on the laptop.
    I will feel guilty if I already have a perfectly good laptop.
    I will feel guilty if I dropped the old laptop 4 months after buying it and it broke and I had to buy a new one.

    It should also be noted... I'm a pretty shameless person.
     
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    Yes! I try to predict it, and avoid it in advance. If I'm not winning too much, I won't be feeling guilty all the time.

    In your situation however, I'd probably buy myself the laptop, assuming I need it a lot and it's not just something fordalulz.
     
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    haha, well that would surely make things easier if I was you. :p
     
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    I have a laptop already, but it's really old. However, it still does its function. So I'm always asking myself "Do I really need it?" and unfortunately my response is "no".

    Well thank you, now I now what I should do lol
     
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    Heh, yeah your bro can buy his own wii. If he's too young he has to wait for Christmas.
    As for the laptop guilt, yeah I have the same, for clothes. I rarely buy new clothes, and I feel bad whenever I do, even though I have very few that are still wearable (I can't bring myself to throw them all out at once.)
    What you could do is think about how much you need it/want it, vs how much you'll actually make use of it. I know that I can buy things that I end up rarely using, because I thought I needed it, but those clothes I need badly and I'll use them constantly. Also, you don't have to buy it now, just sit on the money for a bit, something else might come up. You'll resolve this feeling I'm sure.
     
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    Those are great suggestions Dove. I really think that I'm making a hasty decision since like you said, it's not something I really need. I'm really going to take that advice into consideration, I might need that money for something far more important. But I'm definitely getting my brother something, because I always feel that I never do.
     
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    Unless I am behind in my work, or accidentally hurt a friend's feelings, no I do not feel guilty.

    I defy the ENTP stereotype of being bad with money, by being a bit of a penny-pincher. I learned early on in life the value of a dollar, and almost every single "guilty" pleasure I've purchased from childhood onward was purchased with money I worked for and saved myself.
    When I choose to spend money it is a conscious decision I do not feel the least amount of guilt for. It is my money, I worked for it, therefore I get to spend it on what I want, when I want as long as I have a certain amount for bills and saved up.
     
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    Good for you, I see the logic behind what you're saying and I really wish I could do the same as you.

    I'm a messed up case and I should probably be a little bit more selfish with my money as well but those damn feelings always get on the way.
     
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    I rarely feel guilty. The times that it happens are over situations that I really hurt someone. When I was about 10 years old I was home sick for the day when I looked out my back window and saw some guy in the back yard with what I thought was a gun. I called the police and they sent out a few squad cars. The officers showed up with their guns pulled (one had a shot-gun) Turns out it was my neighbor's grandson who was about 14 years old on vacation and he was using a toy gun.

    I still feel bad about that for some reason.
     
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    too often..
     
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    Ah guilt.

    Its my second name.
     
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    I spent a substantial portion of my life feeling guilty about choices, mistakes, failure to choose, etc.


    I'm over it now.


    Once I understood (not just with my head, but with my heart as well) that the guilt wasn't making anything better for anyone, I stopped. I'm not sure what advice would be useful, but I do think actions matter more than the guilt itself. Once you make a choice, accept it, and then keep moving forward.
     
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