In unfamiliar environments, especially the high school I've been attending for the past three and a half years, I usually project a “too” serious, unapproachable, occasionally cranky presence depending on how uncomfortable I'm feeling, in an awkward rather than intimidating way ("because I'm tired...
"). Yup, I too can relate to droopy-eyed, absent-lifed lethargy! Ironically my dream for the near future is to become the most inspiring counsellor I can be. :S
I worry about only being open and warm towards people I know well and trust, and I'd really like to work on letting go of all this mutually exclusive anxious tension. The problem is that whenever I feel emotionally unsafe I will internalise more touchy and on edge inclinations to manifest.
My ENFJ friend said I needed to "better myself" for being too aloof. Expressive concern and socially gracious accommodation for others is avoidant behind my own insecure mute withdrawal, which I hide with instead of clarify to those who possibly tiptoe around the impression that I hate them.
Over the years I've somehow associated overt public displays of Fe with selling myself out, (not applicable to anyone else) because since childhood it has increasingly become so personally out of character. Hm, cognitive dissonance with integrity.
Why can't we come across dreamy like the INFPs?!
I like to think INFJs are there for others in a different way; lacking the energy to reach out extensively like domFes, yet we're loyal to confidants who approach us and are willing to stick by them for however long they need a soft spot to be, comfortably.
...NO to everybody else's fussy perceptions!