I'm an INFJ. I have been hurt badly and belittled in my life. I am prone to holding grudges. Is this common with INFJs? Or are INFJs forgiving?
I don’t ever hold grudges, I just don’t ever trust that person again and/or distance myself from them.
Now if someone were to say - hurt my Son somehow, I can’t say that I would be able to distance my feelings in such a manner.
To me, holding onto all that negative energy and feelings just eats away at you…it certainly doesn’t help you in any way - emotionally, spiritually, mentally, etc.
Yeah, I think I would tend to be less forgiving of someone who hurt a loved on of mine than someone who actually hurt me.Actually, this is me also. I distance myself from people I consider hurtful rather than hold a grudge. I don't have children but in a similar way I tend to be more emotionally invested when other people are getting hurt.