Construction and constitution of 1 on 1 friend relationships.

[Vilku]

its a serious, a very a.

ah yes, so how you imagine the behind the scenes materials, options, strategies, tactics, whatever as?

ive put them on two phases: seeding, try what of your seeds fits mutually to grow a tree together.

when youve found that seed, keep fertilizing the tree you have together!

i for example, fertilize the already existing trees by contemplating on the topics discussed how i could bring more to them and correct it as more information depth is gained.
i do have non verbal trees as well, but with intellectually interesting people i prefer growing trees of blabber!

now, my short conclusion ends, and your view on the matter enters?

 

[Nixie]

So...culitivate, then fertilize???

 

[the]

I like gardening. Im trying to start one in a few months!

 

[Vilku]

So...culitivate, then fertilize???

=S.. my parables shoulfnt bne confisuing.

the seed is as complex as you can make, from building strategies of implementing it and finding correct seeds with different people.
and there isnt really fertilizing in the first meeting, as you must concentrate on building a mutual tree!
fertilizing is to keep the tree from dying.. which i dont aways remebre to do =S
and, its also for growing the tree as big as your mentally capable of!

I like gardening. Im trying to start one in a few months!

thats great, i only have grewn a few trees as im struggling to keep my own from dying! =SSS
and those few arent in that good shape either.. well, better than my own tree for sure <.< ..

 

[JGirl]

i'm lost
i cannot see the forest for the trees.

 

[Vilku]

i'm lost
i cannot see the forest for the trees.

your not supposed to. everyone starts empty handed =)
its not like youve born with already established relationships with enough depth for near unlimited growth. -.-

 

[namiasdf]

I feel like I am two different people.
The critical side that appears around those I trust and love.
The very accommodating side that appears around those I don't know.

It really should be the other way around.
It makes me too trusting.
Too loving.

Now my heart is permanently scared.
Ths life though.

 

[Vilku]

I feel like I am two different people.
The critical side that appears around those I trust and love.
The very accommodating side that appears around those I don't know.

It really should be the other way around.
It makes me too trusting.
Too loving.

Now my heart is permanently scared.
Ths life though.

i can relate, although.. its different, as if i am different person for EVERY people.
which is why i struggle to find mbti which is really just me. what is "me"? i dont know =S

ive lost my trust in humanity generally due to being too trusting. i find it hard to imagine how someone could be selfish, yet they are.. and i forget it too often.