I suppose this will be quite a contentious issue on here. But I just have to vent my annoyance somewhere, about the fact that everytime I go out with a guy, he puts on weight! Before I go out with them, they have very trim frames, although no one I have ever dated has worked out, so this is always purely a metabolism thing. But when we start dating, they gradually lose it and end up plump. My current boyfriend is no different. I absolutely love him to bits, he has every good quality I could ask for. When we first met he had a perfect physique, for me ( a little waist and good shoulders). We weren't going out at that stage, and he moved continent to work offshore. I didn't see him again for a year, and at this stage he had put on a little weight, but not too much. Following this, there was another gap of pretty much a year, and now he has moved over to be with me. But from spending so much time working on the ship, where he gets no exercise and eats a hell of a lot of food, he has gained probably a stone and a half of weight around his waist. I don't think it actually makes me less attracted to him, I still find him really attractive (maybe not quite so much as when he was slim, but not a massive deal...). I do, however, find it really irritating that he's not bothered about taking care of his body! I keep myself trim just because I like to make the most of what I've been given! If he has been given such a perfect frame, how can he just not care? He does actually care though.. he will cover it with cushions when sitting down, and seems self-conscious. It's also the elephant in the room with us, although we can normally talk about absolutely anything. It's these things that bother me more than his appearance. He's showing some interest in exercise and eating good food which is great, but I'm worried that when he goes offshore again, it'll undo all the good work he's done on his break. Help?
