[INFJ] ENTP guy absolutely crazy about INFJ girl and need your help! Grateful for insights

Hello everyone,

I have created this account and profile just to understand this INFJ lady. I'm and ENTP guy and I have been crazy about her for a few months, and have been doing everything in my power to make things happen. After reading many posts on the internet, I realize how glacial things can go with her. I am okay with that, but lately I have been going a little mad trying to figure out whether or not she is interested. So would love to hear what anyone can suggest about my predicament. I apologize if this is a little long.

Here are the facts:
1. We had taken MBTIs and are confirmed ENTP and INFJ.
2. She knows I like her-- I told her over a month ago, and she did not reject me. I know the INFJ type looks long-term, and she said the same-- that there is no point in having a short term affair. She does not see the value in people just getting together for the fun of it, and hooking up. I have no such intentions with her anyway.
3. I reassured her that I was looking for something serious as well, and that she can take all the time she wants. I left it at that, because I did not want to pressure her into something.
4. Since then, we have hung out several times alone. I've put my arms around her a couple of times and held hands. I did not try to kiss her, as I did not want to scare her or put pressure on her.
5. She never initiates a single thing. Every single time, I have to message or make plans to do something. She usually accepts.
6. I'm very sick and tired of having to text her all the time. She is terrible at texts, hardly holds conversation and is fine without any contact at all for a week or more. I go crazy during these phases and give in to my urge to text her or call.
7. Recently I had a serious family emergency, and was in quite a traumatic state. After my family and friends, she was the first person I called. She was not particularly reassuring, and hardly checked in on me later. That sucked.
8. Even after my emergency, she did not particularly get in touch and thought it best to leave me alone.
9. She has never said a single thing that can be interpreted as romantic.
10. She has mentioned how she how secure or comfortable she feels around me.
11. She never initiates a single thing, and I hate it. I am not sure to what extent, it is my ego but I cannot constantly chase her forever. Always initiating sucks, ESPECIALLY when there is hardly any reciprocity.
12. I've thought several times to call her out on it, but have held back lest I screw things up.

PS:
Before I told her I liked her, I was seeing someone else for 2 months and she is aware of this. I ended things with that girl as I liked the INFJ and did not want to be a two timing asshole. She is aware things are over, but I think it may have had an effect on this?

Questions:
What do I do?
I am so sad, and so crazy about her. Being hopelessly in love all the time, I can already picture our lives together. I hate that, but it is me.
She knows I really like her, and I have gone out of my way several times to do nice things for her. Don't think she has reciprocate that at all.
Does she like me at all?
Should I just move on with my life?
Should I ask her straight up where she sees things after a couple of months? Maybe before Valentine's day.

Thanks a lot guys! As an ENTP I need answers and solutions, and so I feel that if she just tells me she is not interested, I can start putting the pieces of my heart back together...

Hi Shasha

Thanks-- I like her cuz she is a nice person. She is very beautiful, and we have lots in common. We spent many whole days together (alone) and she tells me how she always has a great time. I have fun too, and it's nice...

Thanks for the inputs guys. I agree with what you are saying. Maybe it's just best to be quiet/ move on. But wanted to share these other details to see if there may be any other thoughts?

1. We spent many entire evenings and days together alone. It's always fun, and goes on till really late at night. And these have happened after I told her I like her too. While fun, the most that has happened is hand holding/ cuddles.
2. I've asked her couple of times if I should stop bothering her (when I felt I was chasing her too much), and she said not to.
3. Knowing some of her other friends from work, I know she dislikes texting immensely. Maybe that's why she doesn't text?-- she had also told me stories of how she despises messaging too.
4. Has told me she likes spending time with me.
5. Her past relationships have only been long-term; and the three she had lasted several years! So she's not a casual dater, and that's fine with me.
6. Had agreed to go on an overseas trip with me during our Easter break, and we bought tickets already.

Does this all this mean anything at all?

Hey thanks littlemissmaya,

You are right-- she is completely passive. Right now I am just wondering if I should stop taking all the initiative, or continue to do so. I am not doing very well because of the lack of reciprocity, so it would be quite difficult but possible. Or do you think I should just ignore her, not say anything and continue to be friendly/ civil when I see her around? A big part of me wants to just have a conversation with her and just ask straight up "Do you see me as anything more than a friend?", and if she says no, then I can move on. But I also feel that would put her on the spot to give an answer and pressuring her.

What do you say?

littlemissmaya,

Yeah I know she feels quite bad about being responsible for ending the previous relationship. Reassured her that she was not to blame, but know she still feels that way. I gave her other reasons for why that broke up, because I didn't want to complicate things for her.

Also no idea how much time to give this. It's been about a couple of months of hanging out too, and I will be patient as I think she is worth it. But no clue how long for...