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Which Type Do You Get Along With the Least?

Which type do you get along with the least?

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ESTJs drive me CRAZY! They seriously make me want to slap them. Or at least the two that I know make me want to.

ESTPs are cool, or whatever, but some ESTP guys I know annoy me because.... I don't know... they're kind of assholes.

The ESFPs I know are super fun! But I don't trust them too much.

I love ENFPs! I do I do!
 
ESTJ's. I think these guys are the main reason so many people hate coming in to work.

And In my experience, ESP's tend to be liars and con artists; but anymore, I can spot them a mile away and I just don't trust them to begin with. They can then be safely ignored.
 
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bananaphone said:
INFJ. Not based on my interactions here.. but I have been friends with two INFJs, one male one female for some time. I have the same issues with them both--though they don't know each other.

I will now commence the ranting.
I can never live up to their expectations. It seems like I'm always falling short of being.. moral and appropriate or serious and on-time or available.

My flakyness drives them both crazy. Which I can understand how it would--it drives me crazy but I always feel I have to cater to ten things/people in my life at once.. so when I break plans or am late, I get shunned for awhile.
For example, I was moving all last week, working extra hours, and helping my boyfriend's dog reacclamate to it's new home... and my INFJ friend insisted I go to her housewarming party on a day that I was trying to do all three of those other things at once.. so I said, "I'll try." I didn't make it. She will not return a phone call or an email or whathaveyou.. But I'm used to it.. it happens all the time.

Anyway. They both just disappear after awhile and then reappear months later to be friends. It frustrates me.

I get the impression that INFJs are very very demanding friends, despite the need to maintain harmony with people--if you don't live up to their expectations and you upset their comfortable structure you're punished with months of silence.
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I picked ESTJ. As I can see I'm not the only one >.>
I hate generalizing like that but they ruin my fun (even things like looking at people who look like Ronald McDonald) :(

Next would be SFJs.
Again, in this awful generalization mood, they're party poopers who turn crazy if you put your elbows on the table or even do a small little joke.
I have SFJ friends, and things like
Me: LOZLOZLOZLZOLZOLZ LETS DO THIS ITS LIEK GOIN 2 BE FUN LOLZOLOZLOZLZ WOOHOO
SFJ: But it may hurt people. What will people think of us? Do you think about the consequences?S
Me: but itz funz lolozlolzozl
SFJ: You're such a jerk for wanting to do this.
blah blah blah
sadly happend :(
 
VH said:
Yeah, unfortunately, you've pretty much summed up my relationships with INFPs. I dearly love you guys, but I get really hurt and offended and take it personal when INFPs refuse to accommodate others and insist on doing whatever it is you feel like doing (which is what it seems like on our end, even though I know that isn't what's going on - only due to years of experience). It's as offensive to us as forcing people to do something they don't want to do is to you guys.

However, the silence isn't punishment. It's sulking. We're hurt and offended and think that means you don't care about us, so we avoid people we think don't care about us, or will be selfish and hurt us again. It doesn't make much sense, but that's how we are. It seems like you understand the dynamic very well though, and that's good because NFJs and NFPs make a fantastic team when they can overcome these obstacles.

But, aside from those things, I get along well with my NFPs.
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This is an issue I have had with my INFP best friend Kim a lot of the time, I love her to pieces but we have had some pretty big fights over it.

I am a really understanding person. If she had to do something or be late, I understand! What I don't understand is why she can't be bothered to pick up a phone or text me to let me know that plans have changed instead of just not showing up. If she just let me know something came up, I would totally understand and I would be so happy she thought enough of me to just let me know. But...no. I await our visit for the whole week just to be stood up a lot of the time. And it stinks. She also has a tendency to talk up things she "wants to do for me" that she never actually does. Now, I am not expecting gifts or handouts. It's just the fact that she is all talk most of the time that gets tiresome. I would rather she just not feel the need to say anything. But me of course not wanting to hurt her feelings usually just smile and nod and go along with it knowing full well she won't actually do any of it. Ugh.

As far as a type I get along with the least...honestly probably ESFJ or ISFJ. Probably ISFJ more though honestly. I have gotten more passive aggressiveness from ISFJ than any other type. And when I call her out on it, I am a big meany, and she's a martyr who can do no wrong.

Ugh.
 
My vote in this thread is old, and honestly only reflected my opinion of my father, who is a negative example of an ESTJ. I honestly have the potential to get along, or not get along with any type. By far I tend to have the most internal dislike and repulsion to INFP's and INTP's. There is something about secondary Ne that really can rub me the wrong way, and it is usually a very silent form of communication that I have a difficult time addressing. Further, I am usually met with responses that in my eyes, lead to nowhere. I co8uld further generalize it down to NP types in general. My brain just doesn't get Ne, and most Ne types tend to either me facinated with me placing me on a pedastal I dont want to be (ENxP types mostly), or they tend to think they understand me, but infact do not understand me even in the slightest (INxP types mostly).

As I said above though, I have the potential to get along or not get along with any type.
 
The type I most often dislike is, as would seem to be common here, ESTJ. Still, I don't hate them all: I don't like judging people by their type in this way: after all, MBTI is just an approximation.

Skoffin said:
I'm really not sure of the types of most people I know. Of those that I do know the types of, most of the ones that I tend to clash with are INFPs. They drive me up the bloody wall, and the sensitivity and sometimes overly emotional outbursts makes me want to strangle a few. One of the people I consider 'worse person in the world' is an INFP, apparently.
Tricky thing is I'm also dating one. :m122:
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I could almost sign this. I love my INFP, but god, with the sensitivity, she's sometimes so hard to deal with. How can a person be so explicitly fragile and so explicitly strong at once? Yet the relationship works great: I have to work to keep her from worrying and bursting, which forces me to come forward, come close, acnowledge her reality without trying to fix it. Simultaneously she is also capable of joining my metaphysical journeys through oceans and stars, symolist gardens and endless metatexts (which is something I find rare).

So, she forces me to shorten my emotional distance from the world, I force (or help) her to lenghten hers. It widens both our perspectives, it stabilizes her and makes me invested.
 
I don't think I've had the opportunity to type enough people (only counting those I can be sure of) to know. However, there are a variety of traits that I feel comfortable and uncomfortable around, more so than types. For example, I would say that generally I will likely feel uncomfortable around strong extroverts if they dominate conversations or have a fast-paced or very energetic vibe. I will likely feel uncomfortable with people whose Ti or Te takes hold amid a lack of empathy and feeling. Similarly, I feel overwhelmed when people express their feelings in very strong ways or if they expect others to take care of their feelings (I don't mean to suggest this is a sign of Fe dom/aux). And I don't enjoy the strong rigidity that can characterize strong Js as well as the unreliability/inconsistency that can characterize strong Ps. In terms of P/J, I enjoy people who are able to be laid-back while still able to keep things together. But more than this, it might have to do with someone having the quality of being conscious. People who are balanced, developed, and 'awake' tend to have a certain energy that I find very appealing. It's a breath of fresh air. Perhaps these kinds of people are characterized by several types more than others. I don't know enough to be able to say whether this is the case or not.
 
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IndigoSensor said:
My vote in this thread is old, and honestly only reflected my opinion of my father, who is a negative example of an ESTJ. I honestly have the potential to get along, or not get along with any type. By far I tend to have the most internal dislike and repulsion to INFP's and INTP's. There is something about secondary Ne that really can rub me the wrong way, and it is usually a very silent form of communication that I have a difficult time addressing. Further, I am usually met with responses that in my eyes, lead to nowhere. I co8uld further generalize it down to NP types in general. My brain just doesn't get Ne, and most Ne types tend to either me facinated with me placing me on a pedastal I dont want to be (ENxP types mostly), or they tend to think they understand me, but infact do not understand me even in the slightest (INxP types mostly).

As I said above though, I have the potential to get along or not get along with any type.
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How do you feel about Se?
 
I can't really pick a specific type, but here's a list of the types that have the potential to piss me off:

ENFJ
ENFP
ENTJ
ENTP
ESFJ
ESFP
ESTJ
ESTP
INFJ
INFP
INTJ
INTP
ISFJ
ISFP
ISTJ
ISTP
 
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Dishonest, thieving, unloyal, fakes, short-tempered, backstabbing, twofaced users; and there are some everywhere. I can get along better with any type person than someone with these qualities. Guess I cannot vote.
 
88chaz88 said:
I can't really pick a specific type, but here's a list of the types that have the potential to piss me off:

ENFJ
ENFP
ENTJ
ENTP
ESFJ
ESFP
ESTJ
ESTP
INFJ
INFP
INTJ
INTP
ISFJ
ISFP
ISTJ
ISTP
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Spare no one!
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(Remember, you did ask. Don't get mad at me if you don't like my reply.)

OMG an Aquarian ISFP! Someone get me my double barrel 12 gauge! Or a pitchfork, or something. I know one in particular, and I can barely be civil when speaking about that egocentric, attention whore. And when he gets that dopey, love-smitten look on his face, I just want to hit him with a shovel. I could see through that narcissistic hypocrite even before he entered the room. Oh, I did not start anything. I just sat there on my perch in the corner, gazing upon him with righteous condemnation.
 
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I picked INFPs but I feel like I'd have a lot more headaches with Extroverted sensors if I encountered them more often.

Although I'm terrible at typing people I have a coworker who's ESFX I believe, to the point that I would bet money that he is. We don't have an adversarial relationship but I often just stare at him until he stops talking :sweatsmile:
 
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I answered ESTJ but I think I'm able to workaround their personalities. I'm realizing now that as I got older I have been having issues with unhealthy Fi-doms (or they just really dislike me lol) I guess just clash in values. I just have low threshold now in tolerating people who are so entitled with how they feel and use it to justify their actions and decisions and make others feel guilty about it. just, NO.
 
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