The first time my bf asked me out I was completely surprised and didn't know what to say. I gave him a mumbled, cryptic answer. I avoided him or was awkward around him for about 4 months. Then he emailed me and we eventually started dating.
INFJ gentle rejection: what's it mean?
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I find that with INFJ's the last thing they want is someone "pushing" themselves onto them. It takes time to get to know a INFJ.
INFJ's are like treasure boxes, you need to find the key to open the box. Sometimes finding the key can take months, even years.
Be patient. Being patient is showing your sign of respect for her. In the meanwhile why do you get to more about her interests. It seems that she still wants to be your friend which is a great thing but this time go easy with her.
It could be at the moment that shes shocked by your sudden actions. Why don't you wait for her to come round.
It could be that she dosn't have any sexual attractions towards females (you can correct me on that one)
But anyway's best of luck okay?
INFJ's are like treasure boxes, you need to find the key to open the box. Sometimes finding the key can take months, even years.
Be patient. Being patient is showing your sign of respect for her. In the meanwhile why do you get to more about her interests. It seems that she still wants to be your friend which is a great thing but this time go easy with her.
It could be at the moment that shes shocked by your sudden actions. Why don't you wait for her to come round.
It could be that she dosn't have any sexual attractions towards females (you can correct me on that one)
But anyway's best of luck okay?
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Shai Gar
I find that with INFJ's the last thing they want is someone "pushing" themselves onto them. It takes time to get to know a INFJ.
INFJ's are like treasure boxes, you need to find the key to open the box. Sometimes finding the key can take months, even years.
Be patient. Being patient is showing your sign of respect for her. In the meanwhile why do you get to more about her interests. It seems that she still wants to be your friend which is a great thing but this time go easy with her.
It could be at the moment that shes shocked by your sudden actions. Why don't you wait for her to come round.
It could be that she dosn't have any sexual attractions towards females (you can correct me on that one)
But anyway's best of luck okay?
I've found that direct non pushing statements are the best for making an INFJ interested.
I may not speak for all INFJs but I also except open communication once I am interested (and before on a lesser standard).
It doesn't take much for me to be interested, however for on-going interest is another story.
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Twice, I've ended up having a relationship with a friend that I'd never thought about in that way for some reason, until they told me how they felt. At first I wasn't interested, but after a couple weeks thinking about it I got curious. Neither one worked out. But we left on good terms and each was a good life experience
She may think about it for weeks and then feel attracted to you.
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It could be that she dosn't have any sexual attractions towards females (you can correct me on that one)
But anyway's best of luck okay?
yeahhhh we're both gayer than a pantsuit on ellen degeneres.
no mistake there. anyway, i've pretty much closed the book on "our potential" -- that's the only way i could move on and not find myself trying to "convince" her. doesn't seem right. doesn't seem honest. and expectation kills all (for me anyway).
yeahhhh we're both gayer than a pantsuit on ellen degeneres.
Hah, that was excellent.
Hm... Well, as a dead on INFJ girl, I would have to say it really depends on how she felt about you. Maybe her feelings weren't exactly mutual? For me, I try not to get too attached to someone online - though I admit that I recently broke that rule. :/
You need to take immediate action.
Go find shinning white armor, pull sword from stone, read poetry and mean it.
Go find shinning white armor, pull sword from stone, read poetry and mean it.
Im a guy. And an INFJ. I have turned down a lot of girls that other guys drool and fawn over. We all like hot girls. But I go for character and personality. Ill take an average girl with good personality and character over a vain piece of arm candy any day of the week. If she said you can be friends she is not interested and just being nice. We all know what this this one means. Leave it at that. If you keep trying you will come off as a creepy stalker.