Like it or not, everyone experiences a time in their lives where they may need to call on others for help. From big events like moving to a new home or the loss of a job, to smaller events such needs a little help sometimes. While needing help from others at times may be a universal experience, different personality types feel very differently about the prospect of asking for help.
As an INFJ, you are likely to face some specific challenges and opportunities when it comes to asking for help. Let’s discuss some examples below.
Where Do INFJ's Struggle?
Advocates (INFJ's) are natural helpers, and many devote themselves to helping professions and community service activities. While noble, this tendency can cause trouble for them when they refuse to ask for help when they truly need it. Our research shows that Advocates struggle with asking for help because they are:
Most Advocates feel an obligation to help those who are less successful, not passing up an opportunity to do so if they can. However, they should also allow others to help them. Turbulent Advocates in particular are likely to have difficulties here, both being afraid of appearing weak and feeling helpless more often than many other types.
- More comfortable helping others than receiving help;
- Reluctant to ask for help, even when they really need it;
- Upset that they cannot help everyone; Advocates (especially Turbulent ones with 91% in agreement) are the most likely personality type to feel this way.
“But now these days are gone and I’m not so self-assured. Now I find I’ve changed my mind, I’ve opened up the doors.” – The Beatles “Help!”
Advocates (INFJ's) can benefit a lot from learning to ask others for help and working towards overcoming their fear of becoming a burden to others. By taking advantage of their strengths and the connections that they make when helping others, Advocates can:
How do you feel about asking for help from others? Do you believe that improving this skill would be useful, or is it just a waste of time?
- Feel comfortable knowing that others will be more than willing to help them when they need it;
- Understand that many people will not view helping them as a burden and may actually wish to return some of the many favors that Advocates have provided;
- Use their many strengths and talents to continue helping others in need instead of getting overwhelmed with life’s many challenges.