You Know You're An INFJ When....
- Thread starter Poetic Justice
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You know you're an INFJ when a feeling hits you, and your brain finds a phrase that you've previously said when you expressed that feeling... and it's the entirely wrong phrase... because you're basing your expressions on the emotional intentions of yourself and of the person you're talking to.
Examples
Someone says, "I like your shirt!" You reply with "You too!" because their intention feels like when someone says "You are awesome for choosing the message on that shirt".... and then you realize you should have said "thanks".
Someone says, "What's up?" You reply with "Awesome!" because their emotional intent is the same as when someone says "How are you?"
etc.
Examples
Someone says, "I like your shirt!" You reply with "You too!" because their intention feels like when someone says "You are awesome for choosing the message on that shirt".... and then you realize you should have said "thanks".
Someone says, "What's up?" You reply with "Awesome!" because their emotional intent is the same as when someone says "How are you?"
etc.
Or someone says "What's up?" and you sit there, stumped at what to say and just let out a meaningful *grunt*. Or that same greeting actually causes anger since you know they don't really care and don't want to know, especially when it's said as they walk by and don't have time to spend listening to a real answer.
Maybe that's just the antisocial in me coming out...
I always say, "You too!" Last time was to a ticket person at the movie theater who said, "Enjoy your show!"
I don't get angry I just stand there dumbfounded, looking like idiot. Suppose that's better than what I used to do. In the past when someone asked me how I was, I would actually try to tell them. Got some pretty weird looks when my answer was longer than two syllables.
I hate that.Been there, done that too
I wouldn't ask that question if i was not willing to listen what they have to say.
So neither should they ask me that if they are not willing to listen.
It is as simple as that.
Omg.. story of my college life. All but about one of my college friends are like this...
Yup, lots of things I identify with in this thread.
Finally, I decided I won't do this anymore. Just make a mental note to check/do X next time. It's not effective but neither is languishing about it, really.
I remember when I was younger I did some work experience at the same place my dad works at and I met my dads boss who'd I'd met some time before (really nice guy in his forties about 5ft 2") while I was just popping in to say hi to my dad:
Boss: Hi [DX], how are you? wow you've really grown. : )
Me: Thanks, so have you : )
Dad: *standing behind his desk out of view of the boss facepalms*
Me: *freezes after realising what I just said
Boss: *smile cracked a little*
He kinda paused for a second but carried on being nice not taking it personally, he knew I didn't mean it but I was like "oh shit!, I can't believe I just did that!!!"
Which leads me on to a common one:
You know you're an INFJ when you're really hard on yourself if you make a social mistake and ESPECIALLY if you made it whilst talking to someone who's feeling really hurt emotionally and you care for them.
I know that translates to maybe one or two more types but it seems pretty prominent for INFJ's and it would make sense given the type description and what INFJ's tend to pride themselves on.
I'm kind of new to this 'perceiving myself as INFJ' but there's one thing that just popped into my mind:
When one of your friends is teasing another friend
and they go a little too far and you just KNOW an apology from the offending party
would do wonders. But you can't decide whether to reprimand them
because you don't want to change the focus onto what they did wrong
, since the victim is the one who needs attention
!
Complete with animated monkeys for your reading distraction.
...what am I thinking. I'm not in the situation. Of course it's going to be easy to think of cool, witty ways of turning it around, which will completely elude me when I'm actually there. ;.;
When one of your friends is teasing another friend
and they go a little too far and you just KNOW an apology from the offending partywould do wonders. But you can't decide whether to reprimand them because you don't want to change the focus onto what they did wrong, since the victim is the one who needs attention!Complete with animated monkeys for your reading distraction.
Yup, and I have to pry the crowbar out of my own hands to stop myself from beating myself up about it. But in the moment, sometimes it can be really funny if you roll with it. Once he sees that you didn't intend it how it came out, you can...
...what am I thinking. I'm not in the situation. Of course it's going to be easy to think of cool, witty ways of turning it around, which will completely elude me when I'm actually there. ;.;
New one:
You get pissed off at needing to go to a doctor because you know exactly what's wrong with you, what it's causing, why it's there, the symptoms, the root cause and the result of all of it. And you know the doctor is going to go through the whole song and dance when you go for the visit, despite what it is you tell him, then get stuck on some minor detail or side-effect that has nothing to do with the actual cause of the problem. Yet you need a doctor to put it in medical lingo to write you a prescription.
You get pissed off at needing to go to a doctor because you know exactly what's wrong with you, what it's causing, why it's there, the symptoms, the root cause and the result of all of it. And you know the doctor is going to go through the whole song and dance when you go for the visit, despite what it is you tell him, then get stuck on some minor detail or side-effect that has nothing to do with the actual cause of the problem. Yet you need a doctor to put it in medical lingo to write you a prescription.
Oh my word! This happens to me all the time. It's so bad that those close to me have gotten in the habit of finishing my sentences for me. Which of course is really annoying, when I'm simply pausing to retrieve just the right word. And even more irritating when they finish the sentence wrong!
This would be why I had so much difficulty initially communicating with my ISFP friend because in my mind the rest of the sentence was clearly implied.