So, what are the pros and cons?
I think I may be in one of these and it's scary
I think I may be in one of these and it's scary
Yeah, I was thinking these are two of the most introverted types. Silent & homebound... maybe not so good to draw each other out.Pros: Endless Passion
Bads: Too much time playing with xboxs.
Yeah, I was thinking these are two of the most introverted types. Silent & homebound... maybe not so good to draw each other out.
Now tell us the ways in which he is awesome.
Lack of compromise is a deal breaker. It sounds as if your mind is made up. How long have you been in this relationship? What drew you to him, and does her verbalize a desire for superiority or is this an assumption?
So, what are the pros and cons?
I think I may be in one of these and it's scary
INFP and INTJ relationship are scary. Very scary. At best, it's somewhat of an ideal relationship in the sense because the two should be able to understand how the introverted judging system (Fi) works for both of them and should be able to respect that and also realize that the other one needs space. Fe tends to open up the INTJ and Te tends to bunker down the somewhat flighty INFP. At worst, the INTJ can be overbearing and coming off as "I know better" due to bad communication skills and bad development. An INFP can annoy an INTJ by being way to random and seemingly incapable (to the INTJ) of holding a conversation about one topic.
Pros wise I would say that both developed INTJs and INFPs tend to learn from each other. Both are honest types in expression and one succeeds in the other ones flaws. INTJs tend to see the INFPs emotional expression as more intense and sweet and similar to his or her own.
Cons: Undeveloped INTJs and INFPs can be nasty to each other. Once the INFP decides to not give in anymore, arguments can be rampant. Misunderstanding can be easy to create. Bad feelings grow and INFPs and INTJs tend to inwardly harbor feelings so it can just brood and be miserable.
YEah. That's my two cents.
you pretty much described what is going on with us. But can we overcome our differences is the question of the day? And if we can how? How can I get him to see my pov?
It is yin and yang.. And Otherworldly intense.
Great passion and magnetism.. But both types can be profoundly stubborn so there can be a lot of frustration.
...in my limited experience in dating an intj man on and off for two years. We couldn't go three months without me breaking up with him because of our differences, and yet it was those differences that intoxicated me and kept drawing me back. An interesting mix, this combination...But there is great potential for growth and learning here.I felt like I was always learning with him and he was very into learning to see the world through my POV. It was like each had what the other lacked or each ones strengths were the others weakness and weaknesses are to be overcome.
I am laughing at myself for this.
We get along but we simply have two very different ways of looking at things. He is an interesting and funny person. Quite the talker and very philosophical. It's funny because we were talking earlier this week, and I mentioned that he seems he would be better suited or fit with a different person or personality, but he brushed it off. And he is easy going but he can't seem to accommodate anyone else's feelings except his. So, I think being friends works better for us. That way, we are each responsible for our concerns and not burdened by each other's expectations.
Thank everyone for the responses. It was nice to have some feedback.
yep, this is how we are. I keep "breaking up" every few months because we see things so differently, but unlike your SO, he thinks his way of approaching things is easier or simpler. Of course, it's easier and simpler for him without any thought of the consequences to me. He sees my way of thinking as a weakness and I tend to see his way of thinking as short sighted. He's not a long term thinker. Hmm, i wonder if I'm mistying him as INTJ. But he's definitely a T. I don't know.
In any case, I spoke with him and said we should just be friends. Thought that would make things less complicated and he'd be happy with that. He said he was happy with that. But then I made the mistake of saying that I made a mistake getting involved and that it was my issue, not his. Then he decides to question me about why I felt this way, and what I thought my mistake was. *laughs at self for the soap opera aspects of this* And he begins to grill me about it. Thing is, this is someone who say they have other persons they could be with. So, I didn't think he'd feel any way if we remained friends. I didn't think our involvement was that important to him and I got tired of having expectations of him which weren't going to be met. In any case, for him, my feelings are my issues, so he is not responsible for them. But yet he wanted to argue with me about why I wanted to change anything. And he wanted to continue the conversation later. He is a trip.