Discussion in 'Relationships and Sociology' started by Alkali Regnant, Oct 6, 2009.

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  1. I'm curious if any of you are in this sort of relationship :D
    I recently have found myself dating an INTP and I'm loving it!

    Also just a random blog post I found done by someone having to do with INFJ/INTP relationships:
    ("A relationship of total mutual miscommunication" as it says lol)

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  2. Interesting description.
  3. This is true, one of my best friends is a INTP. We get into many arguments often arguing similar points but in actuality different.

    It's hard for my INTP friend to factor in emotional aspects into analysis, that I have noticed.
  4. i lurve Intps. They are just awesome people. If you can find a sensitive one, life is pretty much perfect. That way they recognize your feelings but won't let you get all maudlin and mopey about them. Good luck!
  5. I wrote this a while back, it may be of some use to you.

  6. My INFJ wife and I have been very happily married for 33 years. In our particular case, the INFJ and INTP combination has been very compatible and resonant, particularly after the first few years of experience with each other. I'm a rather extreme INTP, but over the years I've learned a lot from my wife about emotions, both hers and mine. It hasn't made me less of an INTP but it has made me more balanced and a better person. I think that many (particularly young) INTP's can be immature, insensitive, and socially inept because their life experiences are probably the most detached from the "real world" than those of any other personality type. For me, at least, I essentially have an abstraction/emulation system in my mind that filters all that comes in from the outside world. Thus, everything I see is represented by what is essentially an abstract model of reality. It allows me to manipulate ideas, thoughts, and sensory input in very interesting and, sometimes, productive ways (I'm a successful inventor). It's an extremely rich inner life. I've always been good at mathematics and other abstract ways of thinking (e.g., programming). Indeed, mathematics to me manifests the most perfect beauty to be found. Yes, I'm aware that this may sound weird, but beauty is where you find it and, like most INTP's, I don't care what people think of me. So, you can imagine that there is a steep learning curve for anyone, particularly an F, who is in a relationship with an INTP. But, when you're truly in love with someone, you want to do anything you can to understand that person and make them happy, so there is a strong motivation for an INTP in love to learn about things (like emotions) that might initially seem uncomfortable and slightly alien. For example, I learned very quickly never to disparage the validity of my wife's feelings. Boy, did I learn that fast!

    I can't imagine being married to an extravert (yack yack yack--thought interference ad infinitum ) or a sensor (totally different world views). So, because of my marriage (and one of my sons is an INFJ, too, the other being INTJ), I have an extremely tender feeling for INFJ's. Special people, for sure.
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  7. It's a horrible match, you will both burn in fire and brimstone
  8. Great post. Understanding, sensitivity, and maturity along with a compatible type fit goes a long way.
  9. I've just gotten out of a relationship with an INTP.
    Alot of good I think, comes out of this match. The personalities are compatible in many ways but different enough to learn alot from each other. Both personalities value truth and authenticity and often come to similar conclusions about the world,but using very different approaches.
    The problem (maybe for the younger INTPs?) is that they may not want to be challenged to deal with/work on "Feeling". No doubt that this personality type cares very deeply and takes commitments seriously, but that only goes so far. I've found that INTPs I've known (all in their early 20s) still can't deal with their own feelings and it becomes a strain on their partners. However, both INTPs I know led very difficult lives and personal traumas, so they definitely avoid feelings more than the average INTP, I'd think...

    overall, much potential in the INFJ+INTP! It all depends on how willing both people are and how mature and really they are to date someone so different from themselves.
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  10. If an INTP ever grows up (emotionally, that is) he or she can be quite an interesting companion who is compatible with an INFJ. I'm not really sure why dealing with emotions is so difficult for INTP's but it's true. After many years of marriage to my INFJ, I still find it extremely difficult to just acknowledge her emotions about a problem without suggesting a logical, well reasoned solution that would solve the problem and make the bad feelings go away. But, I've been taught by my patient INFJ and I've learned from experience.

    When I'm feeling bad, there's nothing like working on a difficult mathematical problem to escape emotional turmoil and help me feel more stable, balanced and relaxed. I know this fits the INTP stereotype but, there you have it.

    There are advantages and disadvantages with every personality type. Once committed to a relationship, INTP's are typically extremely loyal and unlikely to stray.
  11. nm
    #11 ChadLeHompe, Dec 5, 2009
    Last edited: Dec 5, 2009

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