I'd like to start off by saying that I'm sorry for posting something like this here. This is just a very overwhelming situation and I could really use some keen advice and/or fresh perspectives. I will try to be as short and concise as possible.
A close friend of mine has been in an abusive relationship for quite some time. I would give details, but I don't think they matter quite so much. Just know that the type of abuse that is occurring is of a manipulative and emotional level. It even goes so far as to where my friend is manipulating herself to see the clear signs of an absolutely unhealthy relationship as completely normal.
The conundrum I face is no less frustrating. I could try and tell her that she is clearly in an abusive relationship (in a much more tactful way, I assure you) but, this could lead to her completely dismissing the value of anything I might say or advise and thusly she would fall further into making herself think that nothing is wrong in the relationship. I also could just wait it out and wait for the day (that might not even come) that she will realize on her own that the guy she is with is clearly abusing her. The problem with this, though, is the fact that A) that day could never come and B) seeing the way he is constantly treating her is tearing me up inside.
The injustice of it troubles me to such a great degree--and to see her rationalize the abhorrent behavior crushes me even more. I've even considered a possible "middle ground" from the two approaches, but it has gotten to where I fear bringing it up with her in the first place. I fear because I know that he will somehow find out and I am afraid of how he is going to react. Not only afraid for her, but afraid for myself as well as he is much older (and stronger) than the both of us.
I'm really sorry to just dump these troubles on the forums like this. Like I said earlier, I honestly need a fresh perspective and some sound advice about possible plans of action.
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Thanks for any advice you might be able to give.